Je suis une Dame Sage...Je suis un homme d'âge mûr

Hello followers and my soon to be followers! How's everything so far.... Sorry if I broke my promise to write three time a week but due to time and brain juices restriction I can't update this blog that frequent. Anyways... Why am I writing right now, well I should say base on my observations nowadays, some girls I should say are going crazy when it becomes to LOVE. Yes! Love is a beautiful thing to experience but sometimes we have to know our limitations...This is also same with the boys. (please note that this is only my own point of view so if you have violent reaction or you want to flip your table with drinks that's fine with me this is my brain and you don't control it okay. For the drinks that you waste, that's your money not mine)

It's okay to have guy friends and girl friends but sometimes we cannot avoid to gain crush on them right?! (We cannot avoid it! Come on! it's part of our life... Attraction is normal okay). Sometimes girls as we get close to our guy friends we tend to fall on them (this is an unavoidable circumstances should I say). I know that you are trying to control everything deep down but sometimes you can't handle it right... The thing is as we continue our friendship with them and you know that you fall to them the tendency is you will over think things that will make you believe that he or she has a crush on you too. To be frank with you, you will just hurt yourself. (I've been there a lot of times...it hurts you know). Girls if you really love yourself, learn how to control everything that you do especially when you are falling again to a guy friend. I know you will say its a modern world already... we should be aggressive now towards boys; but girls let me get you straight to the point...A real man wants a lady with finesse. Real man wants ladies who can bring themselves for who they are but in a demure way. Yes girls! We can be ourselves in front of them but still we should know our limitations okay. We cannot assume "Oh girl, He is so nice to me... sweet and caring" and we cannot assume also that he likes you... I am telling you this cause I have been to that stage... It's really painful in the end. Okay... Oh I forgot to mention, if you are telling this to someone else, CHOOSE WISELY.. because you really don't know who will back stab you... much better if you keep it to yourself and don't overthink.

Overthinking will kill you emotionally. Ladies if your guy friend is being nice to you it only means that he love you so much as a friend. In contrary; if that guy friend of yours are making moves now that's the time to think.You should know the balance between nice and liking. If they really like you they will do everything to win your heart. If they treat you as a good friend take it easy girls. Some guys are flirt (sorry if this terminology is kind a wrong but forgive me) or I should say way too friendly and nice. Don't take it seriously girls if they are like that because some of them that's their personality okay. (I am not a perfect adviser okay this is just based on my  experience.) Learn to balance everything...If you have crush with your guy friend go ahead but make sure it's not too much... Like what I am telling you before hand act like a lady with fineness.. If you love yourself, control yourself if you respect yourself you should know your limitation.. Don't hurt yourself to much you might lose your identity and cause damage to you and to your surroundings

Let's talk about you guys, I know sometimes you may encounter girls who are way too outgoing, friendly and sweet. They will show care for you no matter what.. She's just being a caring person should I say. Like what I have said with the girls, do not assume that they like you if they are your girl friends okay. You must know your limitations too. If you like your girl friend pursue her, win her heart. Put some elbow grease and make the best out of it. If not let her know that she is just a special friend to you. That's easy and its up to us girls how we will accept it. Guys, you should also know how handle some situations. If your girl friends likes you and you don't have any feeling to her let her know. Don't make her hanging and still treat her as you friend not leaving or ignoring her.  I know it's way too short for the guys but come on this is just base on my experience. Guys if you like her and she doesn't likes you (sorry I forgot to mention this to you) be man enough to accept it and be still friends with her. Let God work on every situation that the both of you are experiencing together....

To conclude everything, Ladies you can be still be you in front of your guy friends but know you limits okay. If you like them control yourself. Do not assume every single act that he do for you okay. If he is being a great friend to you accept it. If he really likes you let him win your heart. Set you bars up high. Gentlemen be man enough to handle your lady friend who has a crush on you. If you don't like them tell the them the truth so that she won't keep hanging on the hopes that you will be together forever as a couple. Let her know that you can be still good friends. If you like her pursue her break the chain of her heart.

Until here then