Love or Lie

Second entry to my blog! Oh well new addiction should I say or what? I don’t know probably I just miss blogging. I do admit that I do have tons of blog sites but I do always refresh and do another one. This time I will stick to this blog. Honestly, I like my blog site and finally I have guts to write what my heart is telling me and even my mind. I know writers all over the world will say “Always put your heart out when you are writing.” Yes! I do admit that sometimes I lost my passion in writing but this time but this time I will push my writing skills. I know some of my audience are my friends who know me personally and some of you don’t but hey writing is the best way of communication sometimes.

Anyways what I am writing right now; I don’t know why I chose this topic. I guess it’s about time to share what I know about this topic. Honestly I am neither a perfect adviser nor a doctor when it becomes to this topic. I know most of us give tons of advice to our friends and most of us don’t follow our own advice like yours truly. I admit it! I promise! I do give tons of advices but some of my advice I don’t follow it. Yeah bash me around! It’s fine with me. I got your point yada...yada! I don’t care as long as I can help I will do it.

Oh well sometimes experiencing love is the best thing; but there are various kinds of love there’s parental love, friendship love, work love, brotherly and sisterly love (that includes sibling love), but the best one that everyone wants to experience it the romantic love. Oh yeah! I know most of us are excited with this topic but hey you have to calm down and settle down. Romantic love is a very fragile and I should say sensitive topic but hey we have to face this stage. We are not wood to be peck by a wood pecker. We have feelings and emotions.

Romantic love according to Wikipedia (I know this site is not a perfect reference but anyways I will still use it for good purposes) is a relative term, but generally accepted as a definition that distinguishes moments and situations within intimate relationships to an individual as contributing to a significant relationship connection. The addition of drama to relationships of close, deep and strong love. I should say I will agree with this meaning but still it’s better to ask people who experience it let’s say your parents, or some of your close friends who experience it. Honestly I don’t read books about love because it’s better to learn from experience.

Romantic love for me is an attraction between a man and a woman. It’s something that you cannot understand sometimes. I know some of you will say “Hey I am in love” but hold you horses my friend! Before falling in love you must think hundred fold. Sometimes you have to reconsider a lot of stuff in life. Romantic love is a serious thing to tackle. Before entering in this kind of situation, you have to think “Am I ready for this? Am I willing to commit myself to this situation?” and so forth.

I do remember when I attended a courtship workshop during my last singles conference. Our speaker told us that you have to set your values in life. Yes I do agree on that because that’s the point of true romantic love. Before falling in love make sure you already set you values in life and much better if you really discern about your future marriage. Ladies much better if your man that you are praying for ask your parents to court you that is a great sign that he is a persuasive man. Always be on guard with your heart and pray as much as you can.

The good tip that I get from that workshop is to write you negotiables and non-negotiables in a paper and write a prayer underneath and put it in the bible verse that you like. Prayer is the perfect thing that you can do as you seek for your man that will spend your marriage forever. Most of you will ask “Why are you telling this to us? Why we have to pray and discern?” All I can say it’s being proven by my friends who are right now married with their man of their forever. Most of you will say there is no forever; can I say this to you people just shut up and do whatever I told you. There is forever if you just really pray and seek for that man or woman of your forever.

Honest to God I came from four epic failures of relationship and I’ve learned that I have to do what I have told you. Until now I am still seeking for my forever. I am discerning for my vocation in life. Marriage is a vocation i forgot to say that. Marriage is a great decision of your life because you are committing yourself to your man and that is for life. It’s much better to pray, discern and fast too. Always pray because God always hear our prayer.

What should I put more, ah! Do not rush in a relationship like what I have said before. Rushing makes your heart shatter. Gentlemen never ever give girls high hopes if you really don’t like them and tell them the truth if you don’t really like them in a nice way. Not letting them hanging around it will cause them too much pain and insanity. Ladies same with the boys, do not give them high hopes. If you don’t like them tell them instead of making them hanging.

Romantic Relationship should be a Christ centred relationship because putting God’s first will make everything in order. Honestly, in my personal preference, a man who’s putting God first in his life before our relationship is a great plus for me. Romantic Relationship also is not just about sex. Yes sex is good after marriage; but loving one another and respecting one another makes even your life happier and fruitful.

Honestly I don’t know what will I say about thing because it is up to you how you will tackle this kind of relationship but still DO NOT RUSH because ONLY FOOLS RUSH IN...okay!? and always remember be on guard. Don’t let men give you lies and in the end you will just cry.

Until here then